Doll baby

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Over the weekend my mother and I put a puzzle together out in the common area of the memory unit where she lives. A couple of other women were sitting at a table right in back of us. As Mom and I chatted, I became aware of the long conversation happening behind us. One of the women was explaining something to the other in a very kind, patient voice. It seemed to be going on forever. Is she telling a story I wondered, because what on earth could take so long to explain? Then, during a lull in my conversation with Mom, I heard the woman say in such a calm, reasonable voice, “It’s hard to feed you if you don’t open your mouth.” I turned around and saw her holding a clementine segment up to a doll.

My heart sank.  It was so disorienting because she had sounded so rational and it was also poignant because it felt like I was seeing something profoundly, foundationally her – her patience, her kindness, her logic – holding on and coming through.

Getting ready for work a few days later I was in a funk and didn’t know why. I had my day all mapped out. I was looking forward to stuff. There were no known crises to throw things off, but my mood didn’t match. As I pondered that confusion, I became aware of a voice in my head, a kind, reasonable voice speaking in a very familiar cadence saying, “It’s hard to help you if you don’t tell me what’s wrong.”

I know that voice, I thought in amazement! It’s the baby doll lady! How weird and wonderful to have that excellent role model for kindness and patience get in my head because, Baby Doll, how we talk to ourselves has such profound impact on how we relate to everything.

Baby Doll…what a sweet term of endearment.

2 thoughts on “Doll baby”

  1. Nancy Ballard says:

    A very nice term of endearment! What a fortune encounter for you and a welcome reminder to others.

    Nancy Ballard Sent from my iPhone

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  2. Nursing homes have been surprising places of revelation for me, beginning with the kitchen of the one I worked in through high school. I wouldn’t have seen that coming, but it’s been pretty cool.

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