I’m sorry. You’re clearly wrong

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Just when I think I’m solid, really solid on eating eggs without uneasy qualms about my cardiovascular peril, my eyes chance upon a headline that hardens my heart. There is a subtle implication here I do not like. Quick as a flash I shut that article down and move on as soon as my brain gets the idea that the tide is turning again on eggs. This is just too dangerous now that I’ve built my world around that new thing happening in salads and grain bowls where you top them with a poached egg and let the runny yolk become part of the dressing. There is no other ingredient to swap in that will behave like a runny egg with that satisfyingly rubbery shell and a rich, saucy center.

I notice the same shut down happening when someone suggests doing something a different way or an article contradicts my understanding of the universe. Unfortunately for the universe, I’m not alone in the faulty wiring which shuts down anything that doesn’t reinforce the reality I am operating on and am therefore fully committed to. The simple logic tree in the tweet below captures this unconscious human bias for agreeing with things that confirm our experiences, views or preferences and disagreeing with things that challenge them. In fact, we actively scan the world for evidence every day that reinforces our rightness, carelessly ignoring anything that suggests otherwise.

good study bad study tweet

But we have to have compassion for our unconscious selves. Think about it. There we are building a foundation on eggs and then look what happens! (Truth be told, I was having a hard time training myself to love runny eggs as much as I loved the idea of being a person who topped grain bowls with poached eggs, but the point is, there are people out there whose egg world will be blown apart by this latest study. And it could have been mine.)

The bottom line is we’re biased. It’s our nature to be biased as a mechanism to protect the integrity of what we believe, what we rely on, what we want, and what and who we’re familiar and comfortable with. The scary thing is it comes so naturally to us we don’t even know we’re biased! Just last weekend our grandchildren were in town. On Monday morning Gary came downstairs and said he had a sore throat.
“Those kids…” was what he said next.

“Hmmm,” I said. “I hadn’t heard anything about them being sick.”

I checked and found out they weren’t and told Gary but he looked like he didn’t really believe it. The kids-spreading-their-kiddy-germs bias is just too firmly established in his mind.

I have my own. Being a long-time meditator, I really love reading articles about how meditating bulks up certain parts of our brains we’d want bulky, so when I come across an article suggesting this finding has been over-sold I barely skim it, dismissing that article mindlessly.

It’s a problem. Anyone can see that turning a blind eye to good ideas or a cold heart to people unlike us isn’t going to improve our experience or the world. And since it’s unconscious – going on in there under the surface just like our beating heart — our only hope is to use our big, brand-new pre-frontal cortexes to outsmart our dusty old limbic brains. The only thing to do is know this is going on and actively scour our reactions, opinions and beliefs for evidence of our old limbic brain doing its thing.

I’m sure overcoming unconscious bias will be really hard once I actually remember to do it. The only thing I can think of to help is to make a mantra of a question I should always be asking and stick that question where I will see it everyday. I’m going to try.

what am I not seeing


4 thoughts on “I’m sorry. You’re clearly wrong”

  1. jmcdonald2 says:

    And herein lies the plight of our poor country right now. Limbic thinking…*sigh


  2. Sharon Clayton says:

    Hi Elizabeth – Great post. Did just want to share though that I recently did a thorough research review on the healthiness of eggs – peer reviewed evidence based literature only – for a presentation I was giving. That review showed overwhelmingly that eggs are healthy, and that there is not one study that links egg consumption with any cardiovascular disease. Even more than that – studies show that dietary consumption of cholesterol has almost no effect on cholesterol levels and in the small instances where it does – it has been show to improve good cholesterol.

    So, you are good with the eggs! Now the runny part is still in question because of salmonella – but actually most US eggs are pasteurized – so that is not a strong risk. I go with runny all the time!

    I did make one of those Shakshuka recipes for Tom – a Green version with all kinds of greens instead of the tomato sauce. For him I had to basically bake the eggs because he won’t do runny yolks at all.

    Love you!! Sharon

    Sharon Clayton Associate Librarian Knox College Libraries sclayton@knox.edu 309-341-7249


  3. And herein lies the beauty of having a reference librarian for a sister-in-law! Thanks for setting my heart at ease, Sharon. And I’m so interested in your green Shakshuka recipe! I have one saved I’ve never tried but for some reason I think this one involved tomatillos, which aren’t as interesting to me as the greens. Can you send me that recipe or did you make it up?


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